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As families we are currently faced with enormous challenges, we very likely did not predict or expect. Some children are home from school, you are likely working from home, the streets are eerily silent, and supermarkets are weird places. We’re all a little on edge, but as you might imagine, this is a difficult time for our children. You’ve likely seen a host of surprising emotions pour from them in recent weeks. We know you want to be there for your child, and this is a lot to handle at once. In this article we share some ideas to help you support your children as we all navigate through these tricky times.

Slow down

Our lives typically move at a fairly rapid pace. Now that many of us are forced to stay home, the change can feel a little jarring. Embrace slowing down; consider this as an opportunity to take your time and really engage and recognise what is important in the moment. For those of you who are not staying home, we know this will be even more of a challenge than usual but try to find ways to allow your child to do so.

Life moves on. We still have deadlines, and careful consideration of daily structure and schedule will help bring some normalcy to an otherwise chaotic period, but if you are at home, it’s okay to pause once in a while. Look out the window together and admire the rain pouring down. Make a delicious lunch together. Reread those library books you can’t return right now.  Tidy the cupboards that are always waiting!

Make the connections they cannot

True story: a child takes out a toy they were given as a gift months ago. After spending time creating a masterpiece, they realise it won’t turn out as they planned. Tears begin to fall, which quickly turns into sobs and exclamations that this is the worst day of their lives. They are inconsolable. As the minutes tick by, you wonder why they are making such a big deal out of something so small.

It’s not really about the toy.

Your child probably doesn’t even realise it, but the sum of various stressors has built up and shown itself as an emotional outburst that feels extreme to those around them. It’s not. Their routine is different, they are missing spending time with their friends and teachers, and they know enough about what’s going on in the world to feel a little (or a lot) concerned. Our children are still learning to express themselves and identify their own emotions. They are not always able to make the connections, but we can.

While our own stress may be heightened as well, remember that it’s even harder for our children. Just knowing this can help us as parents find the empathy our children need from us in this unsettling time.

Be there

We have our own work as adults. Working from home is an adjustment for those of us who don’t normally do so and trying to balance that with being a teacher for your child is no easy feat. Some of us even have jobs that require us to support our communities in times of need. We have worries about our parents, grandparents, and others. We read the news and feel intense pressure to follow countless new procedures that are new and stressful. Those concerns are 100% valid. Take your time to deal with them as best you can.

As much as you are physically and emotionally able, remember to be there for your child. Be there to listen to them. Be there to play. Be there to snuggle when it all feels like too much. Show them that even though their world is unpredictable, you are there.

Be honest (but age-appropriate)

Our children are smart, and often pick up on more than we realise. Don’t try to hide what’s going on; talk to them. Does your six-year-old need to know about mortality rates? Of course not. Are they developmentally able to know that there is a virus traveling around the world that affects different people differently, and that the steps we are all taking are to help care for one another? They sure are.

You know your child best. Turn off the news on t.v. but talk to them. Give them the most information you can to help them feel informed, but not more than you think they can handle. Be open for questions. Let them know when you don’t have an answer or if you’re not comfortable talking about certain things.

Another important element of honesty right now: let your children in on your own emotions. Again, there is no need to burden them with things they are not ready to handle, but it’s a good thing to show them that even adults get scared. We have moments of worry, confusion, and frustration. Let them see that and consider those moments as opportunities to model ways to appropriately express and process unpleasant emotions.

Highlight the positive

Spending your days at home together may not be what you had planned, but there is so much good that can come out of the unexpected. Spend some time each day focusing on gratitude. Whether you point out little things in the moment or make a more formal practice each evening as a family, finding ways to focus on what’s good is helpful for everyone. Some ideas:

  • Share a news story of people finding beauty in challenging times (like the videos of Italians singing to one another from their balconies or the Clap for Carers every week happening in communities across the UK).
  • Celebrate the fact that if you’re so inclined, you can bake cookies together in the middle of the afternoon.
  • Over dinner, have everyone share one or two good things about their day alternate this with two or three things they appreciate about being part of their family.
  • Depending on your location and restrictions, enjoy the fact that nature is one place that doesn’t close down. Take advantage of quiet trails, shorelines, and even parks.
  • Share the joy with others. Consider calling someone who lives by themselves and may be feeling lonely. It’s hard enough to self-isolate with others but having no one to talk today after day is even harder.
  • Send a written note, a card or a drawing to family, friends and neighbours. Everyone loves receiving something by post.

We leave you with these wise words from Dr Seuss…

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Denice Scala

Author Denice Scala

B.A, M.Ed, Dip ED, Dip RSA, Cert. Neuroscience. Principal, Forestville Montessori School. Denice Scala is an executive leader with extensive experience in key strategic roles requiring business transformation and innovation. As a passionate advocate for the power of education to enrich lives, Denice moved from classroom teaching to leadership positions in 1992 and since then has held international in roles in Scotland and Australia as Principal, Head of Junior School, and Head of Learning Support. She has an impressive working knowledge of early learning, primary, middle, and secondary schooling including gifted education and special needs. Her Masters in Gifted Education led her to work extensively to find ways to cater for gifted students. This led to providing professional development opportunities for educators to assist in their understanding of the characteristics of gifted children and the complexities of growing up gifted. Denice’s unparalleled grasp of current educational realities is equally matched by her big picture thinking combined with practical solutions to navigate change. Denice’s passion for Montessori education led her to undertake the AMI Introduction to Adolescents Course, to audit the AMI 6-12 Diploma, and to also currently undertake the AMI School Administration Certificate Course.

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